You may have heard people around you use the words, addict, addiction, and addictive with regard to any number of things to include Netflix shows, video games, apps, and bath bombs. While there’s not anything technically wrong with saying, “Oh! I’m totally addicted to True Detective!” or “Americanos are my vice. I’m a total addict,” doing so DOES deplete the true depth and seriousness of addiction. Addiction, whether to drugs and alcohol, or to pornography or gambling, is an issue that brings...
Sometimes, when I tell a new client that my approach is based strongly in acceptance, and I explain that I believe we must accept all of our Selves in order to change, they give me a look that roughly translates to, “You’ve got to be kidding me” or “are you an alien?”. I think there are 2 parts to their incredulity.
Part I: They have bought in to the myth that acceptance means to give up and give in.
Part II: They cannot imagine and do not to want to consider accepting the parts of themselves...
It may or may not come as a surprise to you, but there is a risk of becoming socially overwhelmed and overstimulated right now.
COVID-19 is here, and it’s changing the way we move in our lives. Recently, many cities, counties, and states have gone toward shelter-at-home orders, and our face-to-face social interaction, which might have already been limited over the past month or so, has become even more restricted. In our efforts to find ways to keep from being completely isolated, many of us ...
Community and Connection are critical in early recovery from addictions of all kinds. Getting clean and staying clean can be difficult for several reasons; it can also feel lonely when the people that are closest to us – in the environment and in our hearts – may not completely understand what we’re going through. Worse, sometimes those in our closest circles are not supportive of our decision or our efforts. We need to find the people who get it, and we need to be around people who aren’t af...
Unconscious habit-patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving can sabotage present goals. These habit-patterns often originated in childhood wounds. Healing and moving forward require us to find ways to integrate our thoughts, feelings and behaviors. We have to bring our mind, body, spirit and soul into the same space.
Rationalizing, justifying, and blaming interrupt our connection with our emotions and our lived reality. Staying present and avoiding these unhealthy cognitive techniques can help us reclaim ourselves and integrate our life experiences.
Living a life with healthy boundaries leads to greater joy, fewer resentments, and more compassion all the way around. Learning to communicate about healthy boundaries is a critical life-skill, and in this blog post I explain the 3 crucial parts of boundary communication.
There’s nothing wrong with having a full dance card. The important thing is recognizing when that dance card is too full, to see when we’re dancing too hard, and to make time to listen to Body rather than listening to Ego. Body will always tell the truth. Ego will lie and tell you what you want to hear so that she can feel comfortable.
Practical Spirituality is the name of the toolkit I prescribe for getting increasing self-esteem, getting connected, and feeling empowered. It consists of 4 basic pieces:
Practicing value-based behavior
Compassionate self-evaluation and self-care
The article details these 4 pieces in practice.